Between dress fittings, floral decisions, and finalizing a guest list, wedding planning already feels like a full-time job. So when it comes time to choose a photographer, it can feel like just another daunting task on an endless list. But here’s the truth: selecting the right photographer may be one of the most important choices you’ll make—not just for the big day, but for years to come. Flowers will wilt, dresses will be tucked away in closets, but photographs? They’re what you’ll treasure forever.
When I began my own search, I quickly realized that not all photographers approach weddings in the same way. That’s why I’m breaking down seven key factors to consider, so your decision feels less overwhelming and more intentional.
And before we dive in, I have to share that I feel incredibly lucky to be working with KT Merry. Named one of Martha Stewart’s Top Wedding Photographers and recognized by Harper’s Bazaar as one of the Top 19 in the U.S., KT brings over a decade of experience and a refined, film-based style that’s timeless and romantic. Her ability to capture love through natural light and authentic storytelling is exactly why she was the perfect fit for us. As KT reminded me, “You’ll toss the flowers and put away the dress, but the photographs are what you’ll always keep.” She’s right.
So, how do you find your perfect match? Here are seven things to keep in mind:
1. Start with Research
Scroll through wedding blogs, dive into portfolios, and see what catches your eye. Read reviews, too—they’ll give you a sense of a photographer’s reliability and approach. If you’re working with a planner, ask for recommendations. If not, look at which photographers top planners (like Lisa Vorce) collaborate with. This helps narrow down your list to those whose style resonates with you.
2. Know Their Specialty
Every photographer has a niche. Some thrive on traditional ballroom weddings, others shine with outdoor ceremonies or destination celebrations. For example, KT often photographs destination weddings and knows how to plan around natural light, scout locations, and build a schedule that maximizes time. If you’re planning something similar, that experience is invaluable.
3. Film vs. Digital
Here’s where personal taste comes in. Film photography has a softness and ethereal quality that feels timeless—it captures light in a way digital rarely can. Digital, on the other hand, allows for quicker shooting, lots of candids, and more post-editing flexibility (often at a lower cost). Decide which look resonates most with you. For me, film feels the most romantic and enduring.
4. Editing Style
Go beyond trends and figure out what really appeals to you. Is it soft, glowing imagery or high-contrast, editorial vibes? Fine art minimalism or classic, traditional portraits? Browse Instagram, Pinterest, or bridal magazines and take note of what consistently pulls you in. Once you recognize your taste, you’ll be able to match it with a photographer’s editing style—ensuring you’ll still love your photos ten, twenty, fifty years from now.
5. Connection Matters
This one is huge: you need to feel comfortable with your photographer. Whether you meet in person or over video chat, pay attention to how they communicate. Do they listen to your vision? Do you feel at ease with them? On your wedding day, your photographer will be there for some of the most intimate and emotional moments—you’ll want someone you trust, who can be both discreet and directive when needed.
6. Be Clear on Budget
Photography is an investment. The right photographer may stretch your budget, but remember: you can always order albums and prints later. What you can’t do is go back and re-capture your day. Ask about packages, extras, and what’s included so you know exactly what you’re paying for. The key is to get the best you can afford.
7. Prep Together
Ask thoughtful questions: Have they shot weddings like yours? Do they have advice on visual details or timelines? What’s their process for family portraits? A seasoned photographer has attended hundreds of weddings and can share invaluable insights. Also, don’t forget to mention personal details—like making sure you get a photo with your grandmother or navigating divorced parents gracefully. These little notes help your photographer capture the day in a way that truly reflects your story.
Final Thoughts
Choosing your wedding photographer isn’t just about finding someone who takes pretty pictures. It’s about finding a storyteller who will preserve the essence of your day—the laughter, the tears, the fleeting moments you may not even notice in the whirlwind of it all. As KT so beautifully put it, your experience on the wedding day is just as important as the images you’ll receive.
So take your time, trust your instincts, and remember: these are the memories you’ll hold onto forever.
